书籍 How To Think More About Sex的封面

How To Think More About Sex

Alain de Botton, The School of Life

出版社

Macmillan

出版时间

2012-05-10

ISBN

9781447202271

评分

★★★★★
书籍介绍
In this rigorous and supremely honest book Alain de Botton helps us navigate the intimate and exciting - yet often confusing and difficult - experience that is sex. Few of us tend to feel we're entirely normal when it comes to sex, and what we're supposed to be feeling rarely matches up with the reality. This book argues that 21st-century sex is ultimately fated to be a balancing act between love and desire, and adventure and commitment. Covering topics that include lust, fetishism, adultery and pornography, Alain de Botton frankly articulates the dilemmas of modern sexuality, offering insights and consolation to help us think more deeply and wisely about the sex we are, or aren't, having.
用户评论
虽然说我对Alain de Botton本人那种彻底没风度的性格一点儿都不欣赏,不过这本读起来倒是蛮欢乐的。
好看。 许多看似难以启齿理解不能的个人问题,其实与社会巨大的变化息息相关
I promise to be disappointed by you and you alone. I promise to make you the sole repository of my regrets, rather than distribute them widely through multiple affairs and a life of sexual Don Juanism. I have surveyed the different options for unhappiness, and it is you I have chosen to commit myself to.
哲学家说我告诉你怎么理解fetish啊,adultery啊,pleasure啊,pornography啊,impotence。。。起因经过结果点点点点。然后告诉你,哎,其实这些破事,特么一点解决办法都没有。你只能跟生活和解。
里面讲婚姻和relationships的章节也很有道理。。
听君一席话 如听一席话
阿兰德波顿举的所有例子都是熟悉的小故事,充满了丰沛的细节和生活感,很适合随手摘来在喝酒的时候化为谈资。如果只能节选一句书摘,我会选择这一句:“我们为性所困,因为他从根本上来说是一股混乱、强大和疯狂的力量,与我们大部分理性理想格格不入,因此很难平实地融入文明社会。”
喜欢斯嘉丽·约翰逊(Scarlett Johansson)和娜塔丽·波特曼(Natalie Portman) 的人有什么区别? 我们为什么喜欢看 pornography?婚姻的本质是什么?有闲阶级 Alain de Botton 关于 love 与 sex 的真知灼见,如他其他的书一样,文笔与观点都没什么可挑剔的。
本书虽然说是对性的讨论,但是通过性延伸出男人女人之间的相处之道。也有对传统、非传统、反传统的反思
男神作品里水平一般的一本,印象最深刻的观点是对“why people want to have sex is because only at that moment you know people really like you"以及“It's idealistic to take marriage as a combination of love, sex and family". 后半段感觉有点水了,但是一些思考的维度还是能开启新的角度